Sunday, 30 October 2016

Day Ten #DiwaliWithPk- Happy Diwali!

And that's my happy reaction when I realise it's Day Ten as in last  day of #DiwaliWithPk


The past few days have been extremely crazy all thanks  to my spontaneous decision of going ahead with the planner! First things first, I would like to thank you all for the love, blessings and support it really helped me pull off what seemed like a nightmare. Secondly, I promise I will come next year and the posts will be a lot better with great pictures because I'll preplan, unlike this year. The Diwali Planner, of course, will be different and I'll make sure working professionals can easily follow it.
Also, if you are 'cracker obsessed crack kid' then I am pretty sure you must have spent thousands on crackers and are bursting them at the moment. Well, congratulations because you just polluted Delhi a lot more. Feel guilty about it if you are not because you could have easily spent those thousands on something else or someone else or yourself! It's because of the pollution you just created that our country is considered an 'unfit' residence so thank you!
 If you spent the entire day sitting at home, doing nothing but snapping then congratulations1 You need to feel guilty because you wasted a precious day. You should have spent the entire day cleaning and decorating your house or should have spent  it with your family.
Well, it's done and  it's gone. I hope you all had an amazing Diwali if not then there is always  the next year! Please maintain cleanliness around you even when it's not Diwali. Tomorrow is Vishwakarma Day so if you are an artist make sure you worship your tools! Be good and always have a clean mind. Also, I hope you all did what I asked you to do on Day Nine and that is worship Lord Ram and Goddess Sita!
Stay tuned as  I am working on a really cool series for my blog. and I'll be publishing it every Tuesday from next week! i!

Day Nine #DiwaliWithPK- Let's worship Lord Ram, of course without any expectations!

Friend: 'Why do we just worship Goddess Laxmi on Diwali and  not Lord Ram and Goddess Sita?
PK: Um... I don't have an answer to this question.
Friend: #DiwaliWithPk, you will have to answer this question!
PK: Well, I'll try!

He asked me that question on Day two of #DiwaliWithPk and since then it's been playing on repeat in my head. I asked a lot of elders about it and for reasons being obvious they gave me a blank look. After a lot of thinking, speculating with my grey cells and not sleeping I came up with something. This doesn't exactly answer the question but I promise it will satisfy you!
Disclaimer: Don't question my faith because I do believe in God. This is my opinion and you can disagree if you want to. Also, atheists can stop right here!
 Faith- it's questionable and of course, debatable. Why does our faith in Lord Hanuman and Lord Shiva suddenly increase on Tuesday and Monday respectively? Well, because mummy papa nein sikhaya tha, right? Why do we 'just' worship Goddess Laxmi on Diwali? Why do we celebrate Dhanteras? Well, the answer is 'money!' What happens when we buy a new toothpaste? The paste flows smoothly and we don't have to press too hard. That's exactly what happens to us when we 'ask' God for something. Everything comes out in one go basically, we become like a fresh tube of toothpaste. When we are supposed to take an action about it as in our prayers. we act like an old tube of toothpaste. The one that is to be pressed hard and when the going gets tough we need to cut it with a pair of scissors just to check 'agar kuch bacha hai!' 
The end of  fourteen-year-long struggle of Lord Ram and Goddess Sita is the reason why we 'should' celebrate Diwali. But unlike Goddess Laxmi what will we worship them for?

  • Determination and will power
  • The ability to struggle for someone we love
  • Patience 
  • Teamwork because he did not do it alone

These are difficult to ask for and of course, practice! But the truth is Goddess Laxmi won't walk into your life, if like Lord Ram you are not patient, honest, determined to achieve something/ someone you love and struggle.
So, this Diwali while you are praying to Goddess Laxmi to shower you with money don't forget to worship Lord Ram and Goddess Sita and of course, Lord Ganesha because you need the wisdom to spend money that comes in your life once  you have 'honestly' worked hard for it! I emphasised on 'honesty' not just because it's the best policy but also because God  is watching you. Shortcuts might help you reach your goal faster but they will ensure you don't stay there for long!
My mother first read Maha Shiv Puran way back in 2008 and since then every year during Shravan month she reads it and practices what Lord Shiva has to say. His main ideology was to love, enjoy life, be fierce when required, don't bother about others think of you as in just be yourself and those who know my mother know she doesn't really care of what others think about her.  Her faith, laughter or thought process. So, if you believe in any particular God, then make sure you read their history and ideology and practice what they say.
You love your crush even though you know she/he might not want to be yours, well, you need to pray with the same mindset. In simpler terms, 'pray like you love your crush, without any expectations!' 



Friday, 28 October 2016

Day Eight #DiwaliWithPk- Time to adopt and inspire!

This is going to be probably my shortest post so far but when I decided how to go about it, I gave myself a pat on the back! So, the only thing left from the planner to do apart from writing about Chothi Diwali and Diwali was to adopt a plant. Yes, I have done it all and it's time to pat myself again! The bad part is that couldn't go to a nursery to adopt a plant because Diwali time and too many guests. The good part is that I decided to take care of one plant that is available in my house and if I will be able to do it then in future I will adopt 'plants!' It's like practising babysitting before you can plan your own baby. Adopting plants is any day easier, isn't it?
So, from the past three years, I have been praying to the Sun. I offer water and chant some Mantras. I basically pour the water into a bucket and then transfer it to any plant that I want. I chant the Mantras for some reasons that I cannot share but it's been extremely beneficial and those who know me have seen the changes and still do. So, I decided I'll pour the water in the plant that I have decided to take care off. Why is that? So, that I can pray to the sun and grow as my plant grows. What will I pray to the sun for? Well, there is so much to learn from it. The determination to get up early, will power to rise beyond our expectation, shine especially when people don't want you to, spread happiness on cold and dull days, never give up, be so good at what you do that the world knows about you, and lead! Also, people might hate or love you but they cannot deny you or do without you. Be the light that people can't do without!
So, this Diwali if you can't adopt a plant then adopt your dreams and work towards them and be like the SUN!

                            Smiling while the sun shines on me and I plan to shine on the world!

Thursday, 27 October 2016

Day Seven #DiwaliWithPK- Life is a Diwali Mela

   I know I should be writing about Day eight but honestly, I decided on the evening of Nineteen October that I am going to start #DiwaliWithPk from the twentieth. It was a spontaneous decision and I haven't been able to execute it the way I wanted to but as my friend Shiven said, ''you should be happy that you are doing something about it!'' Well, I am happy and I was extremely happy yesterday but with a sore back all the thanks to diya painting till 3:00 a.m!
So yesterday which was the seventh day I ticked off another thing from the planner. Do you know I love colours? I love places where there is something in every corner, something that I like , something that I might not like but there is something and it;s decorated beautifully!And it reflects in my personality too. So, if you still haven't guessed then I'll tell you I went to a Diwali Mela on day seven and at night I even attended a cards party where nobody played cards well, at least I did not see anybody playing cards. Everybody was just talking or drinking or laughing and basically, everybody was happy!
I had an option of choosing between Diwali Mela and Dilli Haat and I obviously chose the former because the Diwali Mela I went to holds a special place in my life as it was in my college! I have always attended it as a college student but for the first time, I attended it as an alumnus. The best part about it this time was meeting the professors though I'll always be their student but this time we spoke about different things. For instance, they did not well, actually, they could not  ask me why I am not attending classes or have I started studying for the semester exams!  Ah, how I missed those days and how I wish I could get them back and how terrible I feel that I am getting old minus the wrinkles!
The Mela was exactly how it used to be, colourful and traditional. Students in ethnic wear, loads of food, cotton candy, chuski, DJ photobooth and of course, my favourite the tarot reader! I was supposed to buy myself a chuski but I guess the Tarot Reader sensed that there is some girl out there who wants to shell out some money, she sent some vibrations that reached my grey cells and there I was paying her two hundred rupees for five questions! She looked exactly how tarot readers are supposed to look 'happy', 'positive' and with a glow that can fail Syska Led lights all thanks to 'reiki healing!'And if you are wondering if four out of five questions were about love then no! In fact, she herself randomly told me about it. I asked her about things that mattered and at the moment  love does not.
Though everything was same but there was something different this time something unfamiliar was it the people around us? Earlier I knew almost everybody and everybody knew me and  it was so much fun. Today even fifty people did not greet us because well, they did not know about us. We did say hello to some juniors and the canteen wale bhaiya and the dog and the classrooms but that's about it!
Before leaving me and Tanya my friend who accompanied me to the Mela and without whom my college life would have been absolutely unbelievable decided to go to the Photobooth because why not? We got two pictures clicked that we still haven't received and then went a little crazy clicking each other!



                                                              Isn't she gorgeous?
On my way back home a tear dropped out of my eyes because I  knew I wouldn't come back to the same place tomorrow like I did every year after the Diwali Mela. I won't back to go to CCD to wait for my friends so that we could grab a coffee each and go to college together. I won't come back to create memories as a college student . Though the one's I have are beautiful and in my head my college life will always be one big Happy Mela!
It's almost five when I reach home and all I want to do is crash. But no, I don't do that I update about my day six, get some rest and dress up because it's time for cards party!
It was at some venue I had no idea about but I was excited as I knew the people who were coming, I knew almost all the uncles and almost all the aunties. I was only unhappy about the way I looked. You know there are days when you are wearing an amazing outfit, your lip shade is on point but you don't feel 'sexy!'

                         Fact: I make weird faces when I am not feeling too good about myself! 
After greeting everybody I went and sat next to my gang of friends and we were all discussing the girl sitting next to me or should I say the bride to be! We weren't really discussing her but pulling her leg because that's our  job. Everybody should irritate the bride to be just to ignite the feeling that ''I want to leave this place because of these monsters and I am glad that I will be doing it very soon!''  Though most of the people on our table were extremely tired which is  wrong because we are the young one's and are supposed to have the maximum amount of energy and we can totally cut me from this list because I can absolutely give Ranveer Singh competition!
 Right in front of  our table were the people who had sponsored the dinner or should I say the table of the old but young at heart angry men! They were in their own zone discussing work and whisky!
But what made this card party a colourful Mela were the  ladies, the mothers! After a long day of taking care of kids, cooking, arguing with the maids, working they still looked so  happy, were full of energy and looked spectacular in their respective traditional outfits!  Their laughter I am sure could be heard across the street, no ye zada hogaya, right? They might kill me if they read this but anyway, ladies we love you well, at least I do. It's your energy that literally drives the entire house, it's because of your support that we all are trying to do something with our lives and without you our days are incomplete. It's because of you that I can say my life is a Big and Happy Diwali Mela!




Wednesday, 26 October 2016

Day Six #DiwaliWithPink- D.I.Y Diyas for Diwali

 First things first I would like to apologise for being so late. This was supposed to go live yesterday and if you follow me on Instagram then you'll know that I was busy cleaning my room and got down to work really late. So, anyway, day six as in yesterday was all about painting diyas!

 If you are planning not to buy mitti diyas then think again because miles away a family desperately waits for Diwali because it's the only time of the year when they know they will be able to feed their families! They are really inexpensive my mother purchased fifty diyas for hundred bucks and there are thousands of families who earn a living by working hard so that they can light up our homes! So make sure you purchase mitti diyas instead of Chinese or Thai or whatever diyas you are planning to them. Support the artists of your country and add to their life just like they add light to yours!


If you plan to paint like I did and are looking for some inspiration then please continue reading.
Things you will need
Mitti Diyas(lamp of soil)
Paint Brushes
Acrylic colours
Fevicol
Dry Sparkles
Mirrors and other decoration material of your choice. 
If you don't want your mother to paint your face red then don't forget to spread a mat or newspaper on the floor 
Some Basic Tips:   
If you want the process of painting to be fast and smooth then please use a thick painting brush.
I was desperate to put this post fast so I stayed up late and was extremely sleepy and ruined a few diyas. So, make sure you do this with a fresh mind because you will enjoy more!
Paint  in one direction.
Always keep a cloth by your side. 
The mirrors won't stick properly on the small diyas so, buy bigger diyas to stick mirrors
  

If you plan to add some designs then make sure you draw them on a piece of paper or with pencil on the diyas. This will give you more precision when you use colour
Keep the sparkles towards the end because it will make your working area extremely messy. 
Also, make sure you wash your diyas after twelve hours. It takes time for the diyas to absorb colours. I still haven' washed mine!
Keep the diyas at a good a distance from each other because you don't want them to stick to together and catch colours.
Keep a check on the diyas while they are drying because they tend to stick with the newspaper when wet.
Those were some of my tips. Also, please make sure you tie your hair properly unless you want to colour your hair!
 


You can paint inside,  make a leaf or  polka dots or basically anything you want to. Just play with your creativity and light your D.I.Y diyas on Diwali!
If you paint diyas then do upload pictures and tag me or use the hashtag #DiwaliWithPk

Monday, 24 October 2016

Day Five #DiwaliWithPk- I got Wings On my Feet

 Go shopping! Oh come on, who doesn't like to shop? Well, that's exactly what Day Five was about and today, it was all about me!

After a shopping spree, we just don't bring new clothes but also new stories. Stories that stay with us longer than our outfits and the stories gain momentum every time someone says, 'that outfit looks great on you!' You suddenly, feel like wearing that particular dress more often because it was loved by so many people you love because haters never compliment they just try to bring you down. We obviously do have some horrible shopping experiences but we should try and forget them by purchasing better clothes. Today, I went on an impromptu shopping spree with my favourite person in this whole wide world. And I plan to take her to London one day so that together we can shop at the Oxford Street!
It was four in the evening and I was busy cleaning my room and sulking because my shopping plans with my friend got cancelled. Suddenly, my mother informs me that I will have to go and shop today because we have to go out tomorrow night and I WILL HAVE TO WEAR TRADITIONAL CLOTHES! ''Also, beta Diwali is coming and I won't let you wear the suit you wore last year!''
Well, if you know me personally then you'll know why I don't shop for traditional clothes. Anyway, she calls my nani(maternal grandmother) who obviously agrees to go shopping with me because  my mother India was busy!
                                              (A selfie with my Nani dearest at a family function!)
There have been very few instances when I have shopped without my nani. It's always been nani, mum and me and honestly, I hate shopping without them! Shopping with them is fun because our eyes automatically land on the same outfit. Also, my nani thinks that I have a great personality and everything suits me and I love people who have such deep and honest views about me. I love her even when doesn't compliment me because she is my nani and I love her. Well, it's true I too believe I have a great personality but just need motivation from Parineeti Chopra!
 Anyway, we grab a cab and go to one of my favourite places in this world M Block Market, Greater Kailash One, popularly known as GK One! My reason to go to there was to get rid of my nose pin that had literally reached the edge.  From there we were supposed to go to Select City Walk because who doesn't like variety?
While walking on one of the most popular fashion streets of Delhi I spot a store by one of my favourite designers. In fact, she is one of those few Indian designers who has the credit of dressing up celebrities like Kate Middleton and after today, future celebrities like me. I know I should stop with self-obsession but I can't help it! Anyway, her story inspires me and makes me believe I too can become a designer one day. She started with three machines that were kept in her balcony and today, she has four brands or babies as she likes to call them. She is Anita Dongre whose gotta-patti collection is all that I dream off during the wedding season.
Before I can afford an Anita Dongre customised lehenga, I step into Global Desi which is favourite amongst people who love vibrant clothes unlike me because Pk loves and wears 'black.' I never go to 'global desi' because the first time I did,  I absolutely hated the collection and never went back! In my heart, I knew I would come back after two minutes but I still walk in and ask the sales girl for a long skirt. And boy, I instantly fell in love with the  'blue' skirt and  the 'cyber lime' crop top. I tried it on and I knew I had to purchase it! I picked up a few more outfits and  nanis are never wrong! I do have a great personality because everything looked just perfect! I was constantly smiling because  it was my first time purchasing something that has Anita Dongre's name to attached to it. And I was so happy that I did not buy one but four outfits!
From the feel of the fabric to the design and colours, I knew that my Diwali was going to be exactly the way I want it to be-FASHIONABLE!  There was an unusual smile on my face as I 'pulled' a door that said 'push.' A smile that promised to come back to satisfy my fashion appetite and of course, create another whole in my pocket!

                                                                    I love the yellow! 
If you still haven't shopped for Diwali then make sure you do check Global Desi's #BohoFestive which will definitely give you the #WingsOnMyFeet (name of collection) kinda feel In case, you want to know what all I purchased then follow me on Instagram because I'll be sharing the pictures very soon!
Instagram handle- pkspeaks_ 
Share your favourite shopping story in the comment section below because I would love to hear them!



Day Five #DiwaliWithPk- I got Wings On my Feet

 Go shopping! Oh come on, who doesn't like to shop? Well, that's exactly what Day Five was about and today, it was al about me!

After a shopping spree, we just don't bring new clothes but also new stories. Stories that stay with us longer than our outfits and the stories gain momentum every time someone says, 'that outfit looks great on you!' You suddenly, feel like wearing that particular dress more often because it was loved by so many people you love because haters never compliment they just try to bring you down. We obviously do have some horrible shopping experiences but we should try and forget them by purchasing better clothes. Today, I went on an impromptu shopping spree with my favourite person in this whole wide world. And I plan to take her to London one day so that together we can shop at the Oxford Street!
It was four in the evening and I was busy cleaning my room and sulking because my shopping plans with my friend got cancelled. Suddenly, my mother informs me that I will have to go and shop today because we have to go out tomorrow night and I WILL HAVE TO WEAR TRADITIONAL CLOTHES! ''Also, beta Diwali is coming and I won't let you wear the suit you wore last year!''
Well, if you know me personally then you'll know why I don't shop for traditional clothes. Anyway, she calls my nani(maternal grandmother) who obviously agrees to go shopping with me because  my mother India was busy!
                                              (A selfie with my Nani dearest at a family function!)
There have been very few instances when I have shopped without my nani. It's always been nani, mum and me and honestly, I hate shopping without them! Shopping with them is fun because our eyes automatically land on the same outfit. Also, my nani thinks that I have a great personality and everything suits me and I love people who have such deep and honest views about me. I love her even when doesn't compliment me because she is my nani and I love her. Well, it's true I too believe I have a great personality but just need motivation from Parineeti Chopra!
 Anyway, we grab a cab and go to one of my favourite places in this world M Block Market, Greater Kailash One, popularly known as GK One! My reason to go to there was to get rid of my nose pin that had literally reached the edge.  From there we were supposed to go to Select City Walk because who doesn't like variety?
While walking on one of the most popular fashion streets of Delhi I spot a store by one of my favourite designers. In fact, she is one of those few Indian designers who has the credit of dressing up celebrities like Kate Middleton and after today, future celebrities like me. I know I should stop with self-obsession but i can't help it! Anyway, her story inspires me and makes me believe I too can become a designer one day. She started with three machines that were kept in her balcony and today, she has four brands or babies as she likes to call them. She is Anita Dongre whose gotta-patti collection is all that I dream off during the wedding season.
Before I can afford an Anita Dongre customised lehenga, I step into Global Desi which is favourite amongst people who love vibrant clothes unlike me because Pk loves and wears 'black.' I never go to 'global desi' because the first time I did,  I absolutely hated the collection and never went back! In my heart, I knew I would come back after two minutes but I still walk in and ask the sales girl for a long skirt. And boy, I instantly fell in love with the  'blue' skirt and  the 'cyber lime' crop top. I tried it on and I knew I had to purchase it! I picked up a few more outfits and  nanis are never wrong! I do have a great personality because everything looked just perfect! I was constantly smiling not just because  it was my first time purchasing something that has Anita Dongre's name to attached to it! I was so happy that I did not buy one but four outfits!
From the feel of the fabric to the design and colours, I knew that my Diwali was going to be exactly the I want it to be-FASHIONABLE!  There was an unusual smile on my face as I 'pulled; a door that said 'push.' A smile that promised to come back to satisfy my fashion appetite and of course, create  yet another whole in my pocket!

                                                                    I love the yellow! 
If you still haven't shopped for Diwali then make sure you do check Global Desi's #BohoFestive which will definitely give you the #WingsOnMyFeet (name of collection) kinda feel In case, you want to know what all I purchased then follow me on Instagram because I'll be sharing the pictures very soon!
Instagram handle- pkspeaks_ 
Share your favourite shopping story in the comment section beloe because I love to hear them!



Sunday, 23 October 2016

Day Four #DiwaliWithPk- Dressing up those who can't afford dress themselves

''Call up a friend you love shopping with but don't shop for yourself. No, don't shop for your families either but shop for those who don't get wear new clothes on Diwali like you and me. Also, I am not saying buy outfits for twenty people, putting a smile on one pretty face would be amazing if you can do that! And you don't have to go to a mall there are so many weekly markets. Don't you think it'll be fun to shop at a weekly market with your friends? I have never done that and I am definitely going to do this!''

Celebrations over the years have changed so much, don't you think so? As a kid, I remember there use to be a shortage of space in our house because of the endless Diwali gifts we use to get. My mother would never let me open the gifts because the monster baby that I am and have always been I would tear apart the wrappers. Well, you know how mothers are they want to save the good wrappers just to  keep them under the bed and copy paste  on some other gift! The beautiful wrapper must have visited a house or two for sure.
 As kids, gifts were so important to us but as we grew up, got busier and lost in our phones we forgot about the times when a box of Cadbury was all that we needed. Back then gifts defined our status and today it's the money we spend during card parties. The money wasted on card parties doesn't hurt us but the extra money we have to give to our staffs during Diwali kills us. Why wouldn't it? Unlike card parties it creates a whole in our pocket!
The Diwali we give means so much to millions of people. To some it means an extra bowl of rice, for some, it's a good night sleep because their tenant won't run after them for rent, for some, it means sending some extra cash home and the list goes on!  Apart from decorating my home for Diwali with my mother, my favourite part is removing the tag from my new traditional outfit and taking pictures for Instagram! Clicking pictures is a luxury for those people. Today I clicked a picture of my favourite Geeta aunty who comes to clean the dishes in my house. She dressed up for a festival that is particular to her community. If somebody clicked a picture of me then I would have asked them to Whatsapp it  to me and Geeta aunty couldn't do that but that did not dim the glow on her face after getting clicked!




Tomorrow I am all set to make two other faces happy because I shopped with my mum! The purple saree is for the lady who ensures that the Mandir(temple) in my area is clean and the blue for the lady who ensures that every corner at my father's office sparkles beautifully!

                                                                 (Price: Two-fifty Rupees)
                                                         (Price: Five Hundred Rupees)
I mentioned the prices of these sarees just to let you know how inexpensive happiness is. That's the amount we mostly spend on things we don't need, on a few glasses of beer, every week at a theatre and the list goes on! I can only imagine the number of times they wear their respective sarees unlike people like us who don't repeat their clothes once the world sees them on Instagram!
So, out of all the things that are there in my Happy Diwali Planner/ list I would request you all to do this one because:

  • It's inexpensive
  • The person who will wear the outfit will bless you even  after it withers and the plastic lives we lead we need blessings! 
It could be the maid who cleans your house, the watchman who protects your building or the man who rings your bells and says,''madam, sabzi lelo!'  This Diwali before you put a smile on your friend's face by knocking at her/his door for a cards party put a smile on a face who is not a part of your family or friends circle but a part of your daily life without whom your everyday tasks won't be possible! Click a picture of your house help, tell her she looks beautiful and then check the glow on your face after you made someone else happy!




Saturday, 22 October 2016

Day Three #DiwaliWithPk- Time for some Diwali cleaning

There is something about an unorganised room that I absolutely love. It's a messy wardrobe that I have a soft corner for because it psychologically plays with your mind and you end up feeling that you have all the clothes in this world. But once in two months there comes a time when I feel the responsibility of a swacch(clean) India is on my nazzuk(weak) shoulders ?  But honestly, I feel so much better after cleaning my room, on discovering clothes or even a pen that was lost in some corner. And the next few days I feel so much better because I can easily find what I want, my parents don't shout at me which means my mood is always good! Also, cleanliness is next to Godliness wasn't quoted just like that it actually stands true!

Anyway, our mind is like our room. It's a mix of things we need and things we don't. Things we love and hate. Things people give us and in the case of our mind it's what 'they'say.  More than our rooms I believe it's our mind that needs to be cleaned first! So, in today's post, I am going tell you some easy and quick ways to clean what Munna Bhai and Circuit call 'uppar ka malla' (mindas in our mind! And I promise I won't ask you to meditate!
1) Take a piece of paper and write all your problems
2) Now divide the problems into parts:
  • Uncontrollable
  • Controllable

3)''Jalla do saali ko'' Remember this dialogue from the hit Jab We Met? Well, preach it and let go off all the things that aren't in your control. Can you change the size of your feet? At twenty-four it's practically impossible for your height to increase. Pain is an inevitable part of our lives but suffering for something that has no end is stupidity!
4) What are things that are in your control ? The list is obviously endless but it all comes down to one thing and that is 'willpower!' Your dreams, the size of your waist, relationships, etc. are all under your control. Focus on these things. You know what you have to do if you want to lose/gain weight. Break up if your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't worth it. Work hard because that's the most honest and successful approach for achieving your dreams.
5) We read and sometimes even write so much negative about our country on social media. One it brings negativity in our minds and two, it pictures India as the most heinous country in this world, which it isn't, okay? Our country is beautiful and that's what you need to think and tell the world. Trust me, it feels horrible when somebody from a foreign land says bad about your country! So, this Diwali make sure you delete all the negative thoughts you have about your country, your home!
6) There is something about being in a room with just mirrors, isn't it? Suddenly the Gigi Hadid that hides in front of people comes out and you feel as if the world is your runway! People always compliment me that I am very happy and confident. Well, I won't disagree because I don't take what others say about me to heart. It's only my parents, grandmother and two childhood friends whose opinions really matter to me. And if I am sad which I usually am then I don't show it to people because I don't like highlighting my weak points. So, please I would request you all not to take what others tell you seriously. Also, we are the internet generation and there are so many attractive people on social media, don't take them seriously either just take inspiration from them if you want. And if not then don't say anything negative about them because why would you?
''Well, I must say your planner is pretty boring and unworthy, who has the time to do all these things?''
Those were the exact same words a girl in my class used today but did that stop me from writing to you all today? No. It won't. It never will! Why? Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life. So, there are some negatives that you don't have to avoid because they will lead to positives!
So, this Diwali clean your mind because mothers will make sure you clean your room!



                                     This quote keeps the negativity at bay!


Friday, 21 October 2016

Day Two #DiwaliWithPk- Reviving our tradition through Vishwakarma Day

  It's nine in the morning and I am cursing myself for getting up so late. If you know me personally then you'll know my love for early mornings. Anyway, While I was having my breakfast I got a call from an aunt who liked what I wrote yesterday on the blog and wanted me to write an essay on an Indian Festival for her son. As I cut her call I felt disturbed because her son is  seven, so did she mean I write like a seven-year-old? I spent the next four hours cribbing about the same when I suddenly realised it was three and I had not even planned anything for 'Day Two #DiwaliWithPk.' According to the planner I should have attended a Mela or visited Dilli Haat but that wasn't possible  because of my lazy schedule.  However, I went through  the planner to see what is that one thing that I could today and my eyes rested on this:
Day Seven
If you read my last post you would know how upset I am because most of us don't know anything about our tradition. So, on day seven pick up any festival and read up about its history, relevance, etc.. Trust me, it will be worth it!
Now this clearly means that I will be celebrating Day seven today but the question is which festival or holiday(that's what festivals are to us now, right?) should I write about? After a lot of thinking, planning and plotting I decided I will research and write about Vishwakarma Day. All I know about the festival is that it comes after Diwali and is another government holiday! I call up my father and tell him I need his urgent help and he must leave all his work to tell me about Vishwakarma Day because talking to elders about festivals is always better than googling! After taking notes and irritating both my parents, I finally sat down at five to write about it!
Who is Lord Vishwakarma?
My father says  he is known as 'The Technical God.' Credited with the science of architect and therefore, he is also known as the 'Architect Of Gods.' Considered to be the sole architect and craftsman of Triloka or The Tripartite Universe - heavenly realms and their worlds, the mortal realms and their worlds, and other celestial realms. His craftsmanship is considered to be limitless. Apart from creating weapons for Gods that were used during the mythological times he also crafted Dwarka the city of Lord Krishna! The Mahabharata describes Lord Vishwakarma as The Lord of Arts!
In idols and images, he is represented with water, pot, the Vedas, noose and craftsmen's tools in each of his four hands.

                                              (Image courtesy: Google)
When do we celebrate Vishwakarma Day?
It is celebrated twice a year on the 17TH September and the day after Diwali.
Why is it celebrated?
The relevance of the festival gains momentum because Lord Vishwakarma is not just associated with creation but also a manifestation of sciences and humankind. The festival celebrates art, craftsmanship, humankind, architecture, science and creation!
Who celebrates it?
Workers, artists, craftsmen, engineers, architects, industrial and factory workers, smiths, welders, weavers, mechanics and basically all those who earn a living with craftsmanship!
How to celebrate it?
Well, all the above-mentioned people  worship their tools and pray. It's on this auscpicous day that  they don't touch their tools.  It's the only day when the entire workforce comes together to pray to Lord Vishwakarma so they can improve their craft and learn better in the coming year. After the puja is performed, Prasad(offerings) is distributed among the workforce!
Some artists worship artists they admire  or their guru(teacher) on this day.
Honestly, I felt really bad because to me Vishwakarma Day always meant another day off. And I feel worse because as an artist I did not know about this festival. Art helps me take a break from the world around me, it's like meditation. And I even thought of taking painting as a career but a lot of people suggested artists aren't respected in India and I did feel the same until today!
 Which other countries in the world has a National holiday to celebrate craftsmanship and art? I don't any and honestly, I did not want to google it either. I know we do have a World Art Day and we the proud westernised Indians celebrate it by uploading a picture of our work with #WorldArtDay #LoveArt! 
I don't know about you but I have never seen  pictures or read articles about an artist celebrating Vishwakarma day! So, fellow artists Vishwakarma Day is on the 31st October this year and I would love to see pictures of your paint brushes, needles, welding machines, fry pans(cooking is an art too) pens if you write and basically pictures of your tools. Tools that help you create art!
Follow the ritual this 31st by worshipping Lord Vishwakarma and your tools of course! If we start respecting our tradition which has gifted us a beautiful day to celebrate art who knows citizens of our country might start respecting us artists as well!
Also, if you know any interesting facts about Vishwakarma Day then please do let me know in the comment section below and if by chance I mentioned something that wasn't appropriate then I am extremely sorry!


Read how I celebrated Day one #DiwaliWithPk here--> https://goo.gl/LcJVaw
Read my Diwali Planner here--> https://goo.gl/B0ZiXf
My take on our tradition and how we are losing it--> https://goo.gl/LLhdtr






Thursday, 20 October 2016

Day One #DiwaliWithPk- For those who have never tasted cheese

Day One- First things first calculate the amount you spend on crackers then buy some interesting food items like Pizzas, burgers, etc.. Second, select an NGO of your choice and distribute the food items to the needy. Why pizzas and burgers? Well, unlike us they don't have the luxury to feel what cheese tastes like. I am sure they have had enough of puri cholay and aalu by now! And don't distribute it to the beggars because they got enough money, trust me they do! I will blog about it super soon!

If you follow me on Instagram then you'll know I decided to 'practice what I preach.' In my last post, I shared a ten day long Diwali planner and this is what the crisp version of the same looks like:
Day1- For those who have never tasted cheese
Day 2- Out and about--> Attend a Diwali Mela
Day3- D.I.Y Diyas
Day4- Shop till you drop
Day5- Adopt a plant
Day6- Clean that mess
Day7- Read about our culture
Day8- Dress those who cannot afford to dress  themselves
Day9- Chothi Diwali---> Workout and attend a cards party
Day10- Happy Diwali ---> Decorate. Enjoy. Pray. Spend time with fam jam. REPEAT
Also, don't forget to follow the 'Happy Diwali Policy'
You can read the detailed version here--> https://goo.gl/B0ZiXf
Today I decided to go according to the planner but with a little twist. I ordered ten McAloo Tikki burgers but instead of going to an NGO I decided to distribute it amongst the labourers who are helping us renovate our home. Also, I ordered a burger each for the two maids and the guard uncle outside my building.
While distributing them the burgers I went back to the time when I was four and my brother was three, our parents would always take us to McDonalds on Monday, buy us a Happy Meal and make sure that I sat on Ronald McDonald. I remember I would literally wait for Mondays not just because of the burgers and the toy but also because I would get a chance to sit on the revolving chair!
Slowly, things changed and  McDonalization wasn't just about McDonalds! Well, it was never just about McDonalds but you get what I am saying, right?
New restaurants opened, I grew up and discovered cheese pizza! I got back to McDonalds every time I travelled abroad and needed some vegetarian food. Basically, I took McDonalds for granted and in fact, even today I was supposed to order pizza because I heart pizza and look for little opportunities to have a slice! But Dominos decided to ditch me and I could not connect with them and then came to my rescue burgers and pizza puffs that I loved while I was growing up!
There was a smile, a relief on their faces as I distributed the burgers. Most of them left their work in the middle and decided to hop on them. The four-year-old Prerna who waited for Mondays could relate to their smile and excitement. Some of them who were working in my brother's room locked it because they said they were too shy to eat in front of us! Can you imagine?
On days when my mother plans not to cook or I plan not to eat the 'yellow daal', I order anything that I want and I am no longer excited about it because well, it's just a burger and just another tastier option over 'daal.' Daal, that makes them work from nine in the morning to ten at night. The daal we love, the daal they cannot always afford!
Put a smile on a face this Diwali. Do something for others who deserve and appreciate little things a lot more than you and me. I promise you'll have the most beautiful sleep ever!
If you plan to do something similar then make sure you tag me in your pictures and videos. Also, don't forget to use the #DiwaliWithPk







Day One #DiwaliWithPk- For those who have never tasted cheese

Day One- First things first calculate the amount you spend on crackers then buy some interesting food items like Pizzas, burgers, etc.. Second, select an NGO of your choice and distribute the food items to the needy. Why pizzas and burgers? Well, unlike us they don't have the luxury to feel what cheese tastes like. I am sure they have had enough of puri cholay and aalu by now! And don't distribute it to the beggars because they got enough money, trust me they do! I will blog about it super soon!

If you follow me on Instagram then you'll know I decided to 'practice what I preach.' In my last post, I shared a ten day long Diwali planner and this is what the crisp version of the same looks like:
Day1- For those who have never tasted cheese
Day 2- Out and about--> Attend a Diwali Mela
Day3- D.I.Y Diyas
Day4- Shop till you drop
Day5- Adopt a plant
Day6- Clean that mess
Day7- Read about our culture
Day8- Dress those who cannot afford to dress  themselves
Day9- Chothi Diwali---> Workout and attend a cards party
Day10- Happy Diwali ---> Decorate. Enjoy. Pray. Spend time with fam jam. REPEAT
Also, don't forget to follow the 'Happy Diwali Policy'
You can read the detailed version here--> https://goo.gl/B0ZiXf
Today I decided to go according to the planner but with a little twist. I ordered ten McAloo Tikki burgers but instead of going to an NGO I decided to distribute it amongst the labourers who are helping us renovate our home. Also, I ordered a burger for the two maids and the guard uncle outside my building.
While distributing them the burgers I went back to the time when I was four and my brother was three, our parents would always take us to McDonalds on Monday, buy us a Happy Meal and make sure that I sat on Ronald McDonald. I remember I would literally wait for Mondays not just because of the burgers and the toy but also because I would get a chance to sit on the revolving chair!
Slowly, things changed and  McDonalization wasn't just about McDonalds! Well, it was never just about McDonalds but you get what I am saying, right?
New restaurants opened, I grew up and discovered cheese pizza! I got back to McDonalds every time I travelled abroad and needed some vegetarian food. Basically, I took McDonalds for granted and in fact, even today I was supposed to order pizza because I heart pizza and look for little opportunities to have a slice! But Dominos decided to ditch me and I could not connect with them and then came to my rescue burgers and pizza puffs that I loved while I was growing up!
There was a smile, a relief on their faces as I distributed the burgers. Most of them left their work in the middle and decided to hop on them. The four-year-old Prerna who waited for Mondays could relate to their smile and excitement. Some of them who were working in my brother's room locked it because they said they were too shy to eat in front of us! Can you imagine?
On days when my mother plans not to cook or I plan not to eat the 'yellow daal', I order anything that I want and I am no longer excited about it because well, it's just a burger and just another tastier option over 'daal.' Daal, that makes them work from nine in the morning to ten at night. The daal we love, the daal they cannot always afford!
Put a smile on a face this Diwali. Do something for others who deserve and appreciate little things a lot more than you and me. I promise you'll have the most beautiful sleep ever!
If you plan to do something similar then make sure you tag me in your pictures and videos. Also, don't forget to use the #DiwaliWithPk







Thursday, 13 October 2016

Happy Diwali Policy

 Diwali is almost here and it's time for me to talk about 'say no to crackers.' Well, that's what people expect from a blogger and that's what a friend thought I'd do. He loves crackers and hates people who 'say no to crackers' and worse he loves kids who start bursting crackers ten days prior to Diwali! Last year, I shared my idea of a 'Happy Diwali Policy' and boy, it made sense to a lot of people but some people asked me what will kids do instead of burning crackers? I was taken aback for a second but well, they made sense too because unlike elders, kids don't play cards, do they? If yes, I'll be ashamed because I can just bluff! Anyway, I am against people going to card parties everyday because I hate it how these parties are  defining Diwali(I'll drop a link in the end where I talk about my take on our festivals and how we're losing our traditional charm) so, I thought let me put a list of things that I would have loved to do if was a 'cracker obsessed crack kid!'
 Readers who don't know what is PK's 'Happy Diwali Policy' then this is what I mean and this is why I feel I am the smart one!
So, according to the policy, the government  bans crackers in every hook and corner of our country and it's only on the day of Diwali that every household irrespective of their incomes gets a cracker subsidy. A box of limited crackers like phuljhadi and anaar! A box per household. A box that gives happiness. A box that makes sure we do not feel guilty while bursting crackers and also the festival doesn't lose its essence because bursting crackers is a part of our rituals. But unfortunately, we go overboard with it. Last year I shared this idea with a friend who is a media person and he told me that something similar happens in the west too and that's why nobody questions when they burst crackers. Also, their fireworks are beautiful unlike ours that focus just on the noise.
Now, coming back to the list of things 'cracker obsessed crack kids' and 'card parties obsessed juwari's can do ten days prior to Diwali
Day One
First things first calculate the amount you spend on crackers then buy some interesting food items like Pizzas, burgers, etc.. Second, select an NGO of your choice and distribute the food items to the needy. Why pizzas and burgers? Well, unlike us they don't have the luxury to feel what cheese tastes like. I am sure they have had enough of puri cholay and aalu by now! And don't distribute it to the beggars because they got enough money, trust me they do! I will blog about it super soon!
Day Two
Attend a Diwali Mela.  Google a Mela in your area, dress and show up! If Mela's aren't your thing then try Dilli Haat. It's my go to go place if I am craving some good food and fruit beer!
Day Three
Learn how to make diyas and pots. Once you learn the art, start making some at home, paint them and by the time Diwali comes you will have your own  'Do It Yourself' as in DIY diyas. Also, painting is like meditation and given the hectic lives we have, we do need something that can calm us down.
Day Four
Go shopping! Oh come on, who doesn't like to shop? Well, if you  know someone who doesn't then shop for them because everybody deserves to look their traditional best on Diwali!
Day Five
Go to a nursery and adopt a plant! Money is made out of paper. To build more paper we need more trees. And you cannot buy a tree, you need to plant a sapling, take care of it and later the money will take care of you! Also, it's necessary for kids to know the importance of planting isn't just a science answer they need to learn. IT IS SERIOUSLY IMPORTANT!
Day Six 
Clean your house because that's one of the most important things to do during Diwali. And lazy asses like me have to do that or else Mother India won't gift me anything!
Day Seven
If you read my last post you would know how upset I am because most of us don't know anything about our tradition. So, on day seven pick up any festival and read up about its history, relevance, etc.. Trust me, it will be worth it!
Day Eight
Call up a friend you love shopping with but don't shop for yourself. No, don't shop for your families either but shop for those who don't get wear new clothes on Diwali like you and me. Also, I am not saying buy outfits for twenty people, putting a smile on one pretty face would be amazing if you can do that! And you don't have to go to a mall there are so many weekly markets. Don't you think it'll be fun to shop at a weekly market with your friends? I have never done that and I am definitely going to do this!
Day Nine
Go workout because you're going to gorge on plenty of sweets the next day. Also, it's chothi Diwali so decorate your house, dress up and go for a card party!
Day Ten
And it's Diwali! So, make sure you spend time with your family and decorate the entire house with them because if Deepika Padukone can do it in 'reel life' for an advertisement then well, we the real people can and should definitely do it! Also, remember the 'Happy Diwali Policy' and burst only one box of phuljadhi and anaar!
Well, did I do all these things during Diwali way back in school or do I do all these things now? I don't because I thought of these ideas while I was thinking of writing my next blog post. And way back in school, I was crack but not cracker obsessed. All my attention used to be focused on hiding my mid-term exam papers in a hard to find corner because I did not the 33/80 in Math to ruin my Diwali!
Happy Diwali, everyone! I wish you have the best Diwali ever! Also, remember it's a festival of lights so, ignite the light of your dreams and not destruction :D
P.S. Comment down below things you and your family do for Diwali other than bursting crackers and attending card parties!

Read my take on our festivals and how we are traditional charm- https://goo.gl/xKUUSF

                                                 That's me relying on last year's Diwali selfie! 

Monday, 10 October 2016

Navratri, Karva Chauth and losing our traditional charm

It's last day of Navratri and I see my twitter and Facebook news feed filled with statuses like 'Thank God, it's over!'. I know we're not done yet because the festive season hasn't come to an end and there are still twenty days left before the card parties and alcohol stops. Like I wrote in my Diwali post last year (I will leave a link to it at the end) that I don't have a problem with the parties but I have an issue with how these parties now define our festivities. Our culture as we all know is rich, diverse and different. And we are the one's who are supposed to take it forward but I doubt that will ever happen because our generation has little or no knowledge about the relevance of these festivals.

I find it strange how people of the Hindu community think it's 'cool' to eat non-vegetarian food or consume alcohol during Navratri. Well, honestly, when I hear people say non-vegetarian food during Navratri my heart aches but I do find it shocking and painful even with the mention of onion and garlic! Oh how can you, Prerna? You're modern and smart you shouldn't believe in these customs and rituals. That's exactly my point I am modern and you are not!

Karva Chauth, a festival that my entire generation hates to the core because it's against the so called rules of pseudo feminism is almost here! The other day I went to Chandini Chowk and like always I spotted aunties. Aunties in bulk. Looking for matching bangles, dupattas, thalli for the pooja and what not! And I swear on my love for Akshay Kumar and add newbie Harshvardhan Kapoor to the list, I did not see any aunty sad. There was a smile on their face, a smile that you won't spot often because more than shopping for weddings they love shopping for Karva Chauth, believe me they do! They don't mind staying hungry for a few hours because out of 365 days it's that one day when they know their husbands will make 'time for them' without cribbing. It's the only day when their husbands will compliment them no matter how they look. It's that rare day when their husbands will feed them. The ritual should be women fast, dress up while the men Youtube how to cook!  But the modern man doesn't let his woman fast alone. Yes, I have seen a lot of husbands fasting with their wives. The only thing that doesn't change during the festival is the competition between aunties because duh, Sarla bhenji's across the globe needs a special day to say 'mein aur meri dressing sense sabse hatt k hai!' Also, it's eco-friendly!

Coming back to festivities and religion, I won't get into its detail, neither will I talk about God and her/his existence because these are debatable topics. But I would like to ask you all a few questions!

1) Have you ever seen a Muslim crib during Ramadan?

2) Do you ask them why do you fast because 21st century?!

3) Do you mock them because most of them believe in God and pray?

4) Why do you mock me and few others when we say I won't drink, consume onion and garlic during Navratri?

5) Why don't you mock Muslims when they tell you it's Ramadan and we can't go out for lunch because we are fasting?

6) Forget others have you ever seen your mother sad during Karva Chauth?

Is it because you respect their religion more than you respect yours? Is it because you're confused between westernization and modernization?

Compared to a month long Ramadan we have to fast for only eight-nine days twice a year. In fact, unlike the rituals of their festival, Navratri does not stop us from eating it just stops us from eating certain foods for just eight days! And you say our rituals are too hard on us ? That's the amount of will power you have? That's the amount of unity we as a community have? If your heart and mind said yes, then I am sorry. Extremely sorry because our generation is supposed to take forward our culture. Our culture that differentiates us from rest of the world. Our culture that is beautiful. Our culture that we think is stupid, senseless and ugly! Our culture that is trying to adopt to our modern ways as we run towards westernization,
 So, before somebody from the outside comes and asks you the relevance of your festivals and you give them the blank look you gave your Math teacher, start doing something about it. Ask your elders, google it or read books but make sure you do your bit to protect it!

Arjun Dhingra, a friend from Australia visited India for a wedding and I had the pleasure of meeting him.  Apart from almost making me believe that he has a pet kangaroo called Kanga he asked me if he was worth a blog post and boy, he was! Before leaving he said something that I will never forget you all my life.

''You know, I am worried because I hardly know anything about our culture. I have lived in Australia all my life and therefore, my Hindi is bad, really bad! I wonder what will I teach my kids when I don't know anything myself.''

These words still echo in my ears because what we're running from he is running for!

Read my take on Diwali- https://goo.gl/g3qoIn

Monday, 3 October 2016

A month without my Smartphone!

Can you imagine a month without your smartphone? I am sure you've had days where you've 'thought' of going technology free but did you? I am famous for going off the social media every now and then and I once stretched it to three weeks. Yes, you heard that right! I still had my phone and I hated it and therefore, I always craved for a time where I was away from smartphones, laptops and of course, social media. I wanted to do nothing but just read, write, connect with friends via landlines, see their face in person and not on Skype! Well, the Universe conspired yet again and I had the opportunity of going technology free for the entire month of July because of an eye surgery. Erase going out with friends and reading because I wasn't allowed to spent out of my house. I got little of what I asked for but I was happy with the little as well!
As very few people knew about it so, the first thing they asked me after reading my last blog post  where I talk about the surgery and my eye problem, 'how did you spend time in that one month and what did you do?' Well, what do most people do when they're mobile? They listen to the radio and that's exactly what I did. Four days after the surgery when the pain was gone and boredom had started to kill me, my father got me a radio! It was black and silver in colour and I remember seeing it in my father's office once. Initially, I was scared how am I going to spend a month listening to radio, like how? But who knew two days later we would be inseparable! I was so addicted to it that after two weeks I knew the time and station of every song! And I am not kidding, it's true they do play the same song at the same time every day until it becomes old. I remember switching from a particular station around six in the evening every day because  my ears would have burnt if I listened to 'Kar Gayi Chul' again!

I realised as a medium of communication radio is exceptionally beautiful! You don't even realise how different voices can inspire you, entertain you or make you cry! The frustration of the common man. The joy they experience when  something good happens in our nation. You do get to experience all of it online through facebook comments, twitter updates and blogs, of course! But the feeling of reading and hearing is absolutely different because with radio it is a lot more real. And radio doesn't harm your eyes either!
My morning started shuffling between RJ Raunac and RJ Rohit and breakfast time was my favourite because of Anu Kapoor! His show hands down has to be my favourite because one, I love old Hindi film songs and two, Miss Malini can never provide the Bollywood information that he does! My afternoons were booked with RJ Jassi and RJ Swati a.k.a 'Drama Queen!' The latter provided me with all the latest Bollywood gossip and that was all that I needed to complete my day. In the evening I remember telling my mother every second day that I will call RJ Kisna and RJ Ashish( I have had a crush on his voice from the last two years!) and ask them to prank call her!
'Faceless Heroes' is the term that I now use to describe Radio Jockeys. My parents tell me how years ago all an RJ needed was a soothing voice because radio back then meant- Getting updates and waiting for your favourite song! And that's the reason why I never listen to All India Radio!
 Also, if you haven't heard RJ Neelesh Mis ra and Mirchi's dream girl RJ Sayema then please do because these two have the most comforting voices EVER! My heart goes out to all the radio presenters of 92.7 Big FM, Red FM India and 98.3 FM because you guys are awesome and you helped me survive. And you help so many others like me who're put on bed rest and cannot do anything about it, So, Thank You!
  Today, an RJ has to be a complete package. It's not just about the voice anymore! They are celebrities in their own way and are we complaining? No. They deserve it all!
Every night my brother would switch on the laptop to watch some interviews while I listened to them. In fact, I listened to both the seasons of Permanent Roommates! I had seen it before but this time, I heard it while my brother watched. My father would help me plan my life and tell me stories about his childhood. My mother who was my biggest strength during that period made sure I gained a lot of weight as she cooked my favourite dishes and constantly taught me a lesson or two about life!
It sounds tough but I would really request you all to go technology free once in a while it's necessary and need of the hour.  Like we shouldn't depend too much on people we shouldn't depend completely on technology either. I recently read an article that actors Rajat Kapoor and Sarah Jessica Parker don't have a phone! Yes, they can afford possibly every phone that is available in the market but they don't use it because they survived when phones weren't invented and they feel they can live without one in 2016 as well!
Taking a break from technology isn't that bad  at all. It just requires determination and will power. My Grandparents don't have smartphones. So don't worry chances  that you might die if you leave your smartphones for some time are nil! Look at those who lost their vision they too don't use smartphones. You have the power to see, so use that power to do something productive. Trust me, it feels better to do something good than looking like cats and dogs! Also, I am not asking you to give up on virtual life completely but just five days without your phone and computer. It's possible!
Thinking what your  friends will say? Will they judge? Well, yes, most of them will judge you. You might call some instead of messaging on Whatsapp and they might tell you to message once you're back on social media because making a plan on Facebook Messenger is fun, right?! Also, they might have forgotten that gone are the days when companies charged us for incoming calls. My money, my balance and you have a problem? WOW. I doubt if technology has really united us!
My phase really did make me realise who my true friends are. The ones who cared would call me every second day or come to meet me as they knew I would be getting bored and my radio  needed some time off me because I only left it when it was on charge! So, Krishna, Baani and Anukaran if you're reading this THANK YOU. Your phone calls and visits really meant a lot to me and you will always mean a lot to me, more than median and mode!

When was the last time you stopped on road to ask for directions? Only when GPS wasn't working because your mobile data crossed its limit, right? When was the last time you called your friend 'just like that' and not connect with them over Whatsapp, facebook, etc.? If you don't remember calling your friends then call them now and all thanks to Whatsapp calling you won't have to spend your balance! When was the last time you did not hear songs on Wynk but radio? When was the last time you actually observed people around you and not on Instagram? When was the last time you expressed your feelings in person and not over messages? When was the last time you enjoyed a moment did not waste your time snapping it?
I am not against technology it has it's benefits, of course, it does! But my problem is the way we're fixated and dependent on it. Delete all your applications, switch off your phone, give your beautiful eyes some rest, go for walks, read newspapers, cry in front of your friends, write letters and give your smartphone and yourself  a breather!


                

Thursday, 29 September 2016

To a High Definition Life and Khaled Hosseini

And also, I'd request you all not to sympathize with me and tell me that everything will be fine. Because my faith screams that in future Pk won't just speak a lot better than today but she will see a lot better as well!

Does the Universe conspire? Should we really believe in what 'The Secrets' say? Should we really believe in God? The answer to all these questions is a big YES!  Before you read this I would like you to go back and read my last post where I talk about my feelings after reading 'The Kite Runner.' I swear I had no idea that I wouldn't get to blog for a really long time after that post. Like  a friend of mine you too might find it funny how a fictional novel changed my life but it did. Now that my new life has started, I decided to write to Mr. Khaled Hossieni, the author of 'The Kite Runner' and thank him for Sohrab! In today's post I am sharing that email with you all.

 Dear Khaled Hosseini,
Thank you for Sohrab because he gave me confidence, courage and his happy ending made me believe that I will be able to see the world around me with clarity. The font as I type this is eleven which otherwise used to be twenty-two and I haven't even zoomed in like old times! A friend found it funny how a fictional character could help me change my life but I am sure Sohrab wasn't fictional. I am sure there were a lot of kids in Afghanistan who suffered like he did.

I am a Keratoconus patient. It is a progressive eye disease in which the normally round cornea thins and begins to bulge into a cone-like shape. This cone shape deflects light as it enters the eye on its way to the light-sensitive retina, causing distorted vision. I have had it in both my eyes from the past four years. In fact, three years ago, when I was just eighteen, my life took a three sixty  degree turn and I needed a corneal transplant in the left eye! After researching, my parents realized how scary eye operations are and how contact lenses are not good for our eyes. Also, eye transplants are mostly not successful. They don't have glasses for my number so, I had to adjust with whatever I could and it was bad. Can you imagine not seeing yourself clearly? Can you imagine people mocking you because you hold your phone and book too close? Can you imagine not doing basic things like driving, swimming, etc..

At an age where I should have taken the risk of getting a transplant or at least started using contacts in the right eye because my dreams were calling me, I went ahead and started using natural medicines. The problem? I was strictly told to stay away from technology. I did not mind that but what really killed me was the fact that I couldn't watch movies. I love and breathe cinema and so I still went for movies. I wore the darkest shades over my prescribed glasses. I couldn't see anything but I was glad I could at least hear the voice of my favorite artists.
This continued for a few months and my vision improved but loneliness started to kill me. Sadly, we live in a day and age where we like to talk to six different people on four different applications  simultaneously. Every time I called my friends, they wouldn't talk properly even though they knew I had a problem and couldn't use my phone much.  My life was sad but i tried to overcome it. I had faith that nothing would go wrong and I should try and live normally. I did all that I could. I read as much as I could. Blogged as much as I could. Learnt how to make fashion illustrations even though I knew I could suffer from a severe back problem because of all the bending that I did. I continued using those natural medicines but they obviously stopped showing results. The good part was that my condition did not get worse. But more importantly, I learnt how to act. Ninety per cent of the people in my college did not know I had a corneal disorder and couldn't see most of their faces clearly.

22nd June 2016
Tears did not stop. All I wanted was a hug. I wanted someone to wipe my tears. Honestly, I don't remember the last time I cried so much or the last time I related to someone's pain so much. Our struggles were obviously different but the pain was similar. Every time Sohrab uttered a word my heart felt the pain. He was tired and so was I. He wanted his old life back, so did I. He wanted to see the red bridge, I wanted to paint properly. He wanted to drive up those streets, where all you could see is the hood of the car and the sky. I wanted to learn how to drive, go back to swimming, blog more often and basically do things like every other person with a clear vision does! I cried harder when in the end Sohrab smiled and Amir ran the kite for him!
All of it never struck me before I read your book or should I say before Sohrab entered the scene. I knew I had a problem. I knew I was struggling. I knew I wanted to fix things. I knew I was tired but there was nothing I could do about it and Sohrab gave me the courage to do something. I knew I had to tell my parents that I wanted contacts even though they aren't very good for you but despite this, they are the only solution to the problem I have. I knew I did not want people to mock me anymore. I know my eyes have nothing to do with your book but trust me, you don't know what happened next!

23rd June 2016
I gathered courage and entered my parents' room. Before I could utter a word, I broke down and when I could speak I just told them, "I am tired and I want to fix my eyes." From the 25th I started visiting doctors for opinions. I wasn't scared. I knew I could smile too because God is running my kite and I am his favorite child!

4th July 2016
I am in a waiting room and all I can see is tensed and shocked faces. They are all tensed because they have an operation and shocked because even though I too have an operation, I am literally jumping! I know things will get better for me after the operation and I will have a new life. I couldn't wait to enter the operation theatre!

The operation was successful but I experienced pain for four days and the next one and a half months were even worse because I wasn't allowed to wash my face, look at my phone or computer, watch movies and go out. I only told four friends who were kind enough to call me everyday and visited me whenever they could. All I did was listen to radio, feel blessed because of my family, pray to God and thank you for Sohrab! And it was then when I decided that the first thing that I'll do after I get my contact lenses will be to write to you!

I started using contacts from 26th September and started using my laptop on 28th September. And since then I have edited this mail twenty times because I did not know what words should I use that will sound appropriate to someone of your stature.

I'll thank you again and I'll thank you always. It feels incredible to see my family so clearly. It feels sad yet beautiful to look at my imperfections. It's strange to read from a distance. I cannot wait to drive, cannot wait to fulfill all my dreams. Words cannot express my feelings even though I keep shifting between a blurry and high definition life every six hours but it's BEAUTIFUL!

Sir, I don't have anything else to say but THANK YOU. I am out of words now. As a writer I am not very impressed with what i have written but honestly, I am extremely overwhelmed at the moment. I don't have a 6/6 vision but I know I will have that too one day. In fact, I'll help patients like me and be the Sohrab of their life.
In the end I would just like to say that  I'll pray for you always. Or should I say 'for you, a thousand times over!'

Yours faithfully
Prerna Khatri



 

Thursday, 23 June 2016

Feelings of a Keratoconus patient after reading 'The Kite Runner'

 
                                  


                                (Pk isn't allowed to apply  kajal as in kohl that often but when she does she makes sure it's on fleak and her eyes are worth all the droll!)