Saturday, 21 February 2015

Appreciation and Motivation

My last blog post was in October so it's been some four months now. Pretty sad I know but I never thought anyone paid any heed to my work. When I say 'anyone' I mean people who are close to me. Their have been one or two friends who have  always appreciated my work but that did not motivate me. More than appreciation we need motivation and its the lack of latter that made me not write more often.
I got an internship after my mother's friend read my blog and that was quite motivating. Then work kept me busy and one day somebody told me whatever I have written so far was nothing but stupid. His opinion I know should not have mattered to me but it did and all of a sudden I stopped writing. I know my blog posts weren't very regular but i use to write a lot of articles that I never shared. I stopped writing those as well. One guy changed my perspective towards my work and I  never wrote again after that.
A week back all my mother's friends were at my place and unfortunately this time around I wasn't there. Why unfortunate?? No, I  don't like sitting among aunties but unfortunate because the same lady who read my blog told my mother that she re-read the blog with her daughter. She told her that she wanted me to write more often as she felt i had the potential.
When my mother told me about it I obviously felt good. But the appreciation motivated me. Hence, the title- Appreciation and Motivation. Because of one guy I  stopped writing and because of one lady I started again. Why? Well, the difference should be clear. 'Boy' and 'Lady'. He is just twenty two and himself says that he does not have a very good command over the language. Whereas, the lady or my aunt is an Economics Professor in University Of Delhi. She is experienced, has brilliant command over the language and hello, she is a professor. She would not have offered me a job if she felt my work was stupid. I might not have any fan following but with being regular and of course, with time and some good work I'll definitely have people who will wait to read my blog posts and that's the day I am waiting for.
Her words of appreciation motivated me and that's the reason I am writing this. We are humans, we try, we succeed, we fail, but we need to keep trying. Their are some people like me who who stop trying and lose hope and its people like me who need appreciation to get motivation. I am not saying that you need to praise me always.
Criticism like thoughts is also divided into two categories- Negative and Positive/ Constructive. While positive leads to motivation and negative can hamper one's confidence.
There are times when people try to give out constructive criticism but end up having a fight or spoiling their relationship with the person on the other end. Here, are a few points I feel that can be employed if you want to motivate someone and give out positive criticism.


  • The most basic "rule-of-thumb" of positive criticism is: "Respect the individual, focus the criticism on the behavior that needs changing - on what people actually do or actually say." Ideally, effective criticism should be: positively intended, specific, objective, and constructive.
  • Try to put yourself in place of the target person and  consider what things would look like from their perspective.
  • Be objective, so that the person not only understands what you are saying but is also willing to do something about it. Always remember, objective criticism is harder to resist.
  • Try to avoid hostile language. Using evaluative statements increase the chance of the receiver to respond in a defensive manner. So, try and avoid that too.

Criticism always should have the goal of constructing, scaffolding, or improving a situation. Positive criticism can change the way people think. It can bring about a total change in their personality and outlook towards life. Thus, criticism can act as a birth place of change.

So, stay positive. Appreciate not just people but also the good things in life. Stay motivated and motivate. Appreciation leads to motivation which leads to a positive attitude and remember, 'positivism is infectious'.

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  2. As I always say this time again your writing is interesting, overwhelming and taking me with it..... I'll be regular to this for sure.....

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  3. May all ur dreams come true..
    God bless !

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    1. thankyou so much. It means a lot xoxo

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